A Timely Warning....Mouth Cancer..

Songbird BStarred Page By Songbird B, 29th Jul 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/32y.u2fq/
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Do you take heed of a timely health warning, or just stick your head in the sand, convincing yourself that all is fine..? Sometimes, we just have to sit up and take notice, when a health issue arises, especially if it's Cancer, then the choice of doing nothing may be no longer an option...

Fighting Addiction...Alcoholism.

What do you do when you are suddenly diagnosed with Cancer? When that little lump that you had studiously ignored has suddenly taken on the mantle of every unknown fear that you could imagine?
This has recently happened to a dear and close friend of mine..
His worst fear has just be confirmed, and worse, he knows that he has probably brought it on himself, partly through his lifestyle.

Jay has already had to fight one of the largest battles of his life..Alcoholism.
It is a battle that had consumed his life, destroyed relationships, and driven away much loved family and friends.
With approximately a possible six months left to live, before the alcohol completely destroyed him, Jay went into Rehab, and with their unstinting support, and the enormous support of Alcoholics Anonymous, and the Twelve Step Programme, he turned his life around, even participating as a Support Line worker of the AA himself, and in helping others who have walked a similar destructive, soul destroying path.
Today, Jay is three years sober...He tells me that every day is a challenge, and that the day he really acknowledges his success at beating alcoholism, is the day that he is nailed into his coffin, and is still alcohol-free.
That is how much of a struggle it is...and that isn't just for Jay, but the majority of people going through the same day to day struggle, to beat this addiction.
To have gone through all this and won that particular battle, it seems so unjust that the next one was waiting just around the corner...

Preparing For Battle...Cancer Diagnosis.

We all do it..ignore that niggling health problem, that lump that comes from no-where..
We think that it is nothing, it will go away...and when it doesn't, that is often when we stick our heads in the sand, even when the voice of common sense is yelling out at us that something just might be wrong. We always think that it can't be us, we are one of the luckier ones..Cancer happens to other people..but not us...except it can and it does...

It was Jay's Dentist who observed the small swelling in his mouth, and suggested that it would be worth having it checked out. Jay had noticed it, but had not been overly concerned...
Nowadays, our Orthodontist and Ophthalmologists are more vigilant about picking up early signs within our mouth or eyes, that show potential problems relating to our health, and having been advised to check it out, Jay, knew that it could be ignored no longer.
He took the advice, as a warning. Maybe it was no more than a precautionary check up, but it was worth checking out.
It was the wisest thing that he could have done..It was the beginning of Mouth Cancer.

Maybe, inwardly he knew, deep down just what the biopsy would reveal..I know, as a close friend, I certainly didn't see it coming. and when he received the results and texted me, I was at first stunned, and then left reeling from the impact of the news.
There is no doubt that cancer is scary...we all dread it, we all hope that it will pass us by, but now and again, it stops and invades our life, and it is how we deal with it that then becomes the issue.
Once diagnosed and confirmed by an unusually straight talking Consultant, an absolute blessing in the medical world, Jay was told that he had Stage 1 cancer, and that within three weeks of diagnosis, he would be in hospital undergoing treatment to remove the tumour. He was now in the 'System', and he would be guided and supported by the medical team through his operation and after, until he had the all clear.
Stage 1 is the early warning sign, that something is wrong. It is rare that the cancerous cells have managed to multiply and spread to further areas.
If you are unfortunate enough to face a confirmed diagnosis of cancer, then Stage 1 is a lucky break.
Now speed and efficiency were the number one priority.
It would mean more tests, more investigation, but once all the results were collated, then it would be into hospital and in the hands of a dedicated team of Oncologists.

Early Days....Coming To Terms...

Coming to terms with a cancer diagnosis, can be a huge psychological mountain to climb. It not only affects the patient, but also all the family members, and close friends relating to the loved one, as they too come to terms with a disease that casts a long shadow, but it is not all darkness and ignorance, and with today's modern technology, that shadow can be lightened considerably..

People can come through cancer, and live a perfectly normal life afterwards. It is beatable.

These are very early days for Jay, and his family and friends, and I hope to keep you informed as to how he is doing. This is not a complete story, but only the start of a journey that Jay has now to come to terms with. We are all here to support him on that difficult journey, through the good days and bad, the guaranteed highs and lows that he will yet have to face.
He is very loved by all the people who have been blessed to be a part of his life.. Jay is one of the kindest, loving, and sometimes, most irritating people that I have been honoured to know, and my life is indeed richer for his presence in it.
Jay has been my singing partner for seven years, and one of my closest friends.
He is tough, stubborn, and pig-headed, and very well respected. I am more than confident that he will get through this latest battle, because he has already been to hell and back due to alcoholism, so he can just about take on the world after that...

A Timely Warning...Cancer Awareness.

I wanted to write this article to make you aware that this is a not a discriminate disease. Maybe I just wanted to bring to you an awareness that although Mouth Cancer is not as well known as Prostrate or Breast cancer, it is out there.
Jay has smoked all his life...he knows that this may even have been the cause of this tumour. Excessive use of alcohol and nicotine are prime suspects in producing this particular form of cancer..Smoking does not just mean Lung cancer, as I had always thought...in my ignorance.
Should you find a swelling or lump in your mouth that does not go down, get it checked out, just for peace of mind, if nothing else. It could just save your life.

So though I respect every individuals right to choice of lifestyle, I felt compelled to write and publish this article, with Jay's blessing, to make you aware of the risks involved with those personal choices.
The rest, my friend, is up to you...

Other Health Related Articles by Songbird B;
'Angels here on earth...The Carer's Story'

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Hi there! I am Songbird B, and I am a semi-pro female Jazz vocalist. I have a huge passion for Jazz music, and I love writing Poetry, which I have done all my life. I am very Spiritual in my beliefs, and love Photography, Music and Garden Design....I...(more)

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author avatar Delicia Powers
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Outstanding and from the heart, thank you Songbird, And Jay for his inspiring strength, it is a wonderful help to have a friend like you Songbird...Blessing to you both and thanks again for this informative and important article! Well done... and I know this will a battle won for Jay!!!

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author avatar David Reinstein,LCSW
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

A chronology of oncology.... nicely done!

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author avatar Phoenix Montoya
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Important article. Smoking has many nasty effect and cancer is one of these. A well discussed article Songbird and congratulations on your star xx

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Wonderful article Songbird - so well thought out and so clearly presented. Our hearts and prayers are with your friend Jay.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Very good of you to bring awareness of cancer to Wikinut, and all of us here. Best wishes for your friend Jay.

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author avatar Songbird B
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Thank you for moderating this page, and for the Star as well, Mark. I really appreciated your advice my friend. It has been noted. bless you, \0/x

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author avatar Retired
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Jay seems to seems to be a bag of ill-health with lifestyle related ailments.
If he were to go green with vegetables it would help him have a better life.
With regard to smoking, well he is asking for trouble as that is what is bringing down his resistence.
God help him but I do have to say that he is a good survivor. I like people who fight to live...

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author avatar satan fury
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

I'm very sorry for your friend.It's nice to know that he has a big support system during these difficult moments. Cancer is a very scary disease because in most cases it's a terminal disease leading to death. Hope he makes a speedy recovery

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author avatar LaughingRain
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

my mother beat cancer that was even in the liver and lumph nodes. it is beatable but requires a different lifestyle, such as no junk food or ciggies.
I'm glad to hear it's only stage one. thank u for a fine article

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author avatar Rask
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Best wishes to Jay - your frienship and support will mean a lot to him.

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author avatar rama devi nina
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

OUtstanding story and star page--(sending prayers for Jay)-
Thanks for sharing, dear sister. Blessings, rd

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author avatar Songbird B
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Thank you all for your feedback and your messages and I will pass these onto Jay, as I know that he will appreciate them. Thanks to each and every one of you who have been kind enough to look in on my page. I will keep you updated as to how Jay's journey goes..Blessings..

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author avatar Dia Shah
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

good share songbird.

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author avatar Buzz
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

A very informative article, my friend. Will offer my prayers for Jay. Take care of yourself.

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author avatar jayababy
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Most unfortunate but very informative STAR article, Songbird.

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author avatar Denise O
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Songbird, I know this had to be a difficult page for you to write but, one we both know needs to be out there. I am sure Jay will be just fine, he is a fighter, he has fought off one of the things that is so hard to do, he stopped drinking. He is in my prayers, as are you. Please keep us updated on Jay. Written from the heart, just beautiful. What a good friend you are and I want you to know, I never expected any less from you. Congrats on the star page, it is absolutely deserving. As always, thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Neha Dwivedi
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

a very touching share songbird....jay indeed has a wonderful friend in you and this will help him come through all his problems...

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author avatar richardpeeej
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

At times like this it is a true blessing to have the support of both your family and friends Songbird . This support can really help you get through the difficulties thet crop up from time to time in your life. I concur with the above posts that Jay has a good friend in you and will appreciate this so much. A timely warning for many not to overlook unexpected lumps and bumps that can present themselves from time to time. A well deserved star page for this one my friend and a lifesaver for many..

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author avatar Carol Kinsman
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

This was a great article, Songbird. Jay is so lucky to have you as a friend. My thoughts and prayers are with him. Congratulations on another fantastic Star page. xo

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author avatar Carol
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

Songbird first I want to say how lovely that you are supporting Jay, and my best wishes to him for a speedy recovery. This article is very helpful and reminds us all that mouth cancer is treatable if caught in time. Thanks so much. A well deserved star!

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author avatar Sheila Newton
2nd Aug 2011 (#)

You tell a personal story so well. I got a lump in my throat.
Some of what you write takes me back to my nursing days when patients with cancer of the mouth and tongue had to go through vigorous, laborious surgery and treatment.
You're reading - reading the signs early are a way to avoid such aggressive treatments.

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author avatar Lord Banks
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

A fantastic article and told from the heart a perfect read! LB

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author avatar Set Free
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

I too am very happy for your friend. Very happy! May all continue to be a blessing for Jay. Beautiful layout! Very important warning.

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author avatar barbara bethard
4th Aug 2011 (#)

such a heartfelt article and so difficult not just to write but to go through with your singing partner/Jay...stage 1 is hopeful...
it seems people are not or do not wish to know about cancer of any kind...almost as if it is contagious by knowing about it! how superstitious is that!
but you did an excellent job with this subject SongBird...are you sure you are Not a nurse?
and many congratulations on the star!!

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author avatar MidgetGem
6th Aug 2011 (#)

A very informative article. Like you say, mouth cancer is not as well known as some of the other forms. Drinking doesn't only affect the liver, it can have these other disastrous affects too.

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author avatar goldsongbird
8th Aug 2011 (#)

What do I say Songbird the article is well written from the heart and I know that you are willing Jay to survive I hope so from the bottom of my being.Never forget dear friend you are well loved stars an all xxx

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author avatar Justlooking
30th Aug 2011 (#)

You certainly have the knack of putting your message across in a non-preachy way Songbird. Your friend is lucky to have a supporting family, and friends like you:-)

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