An escape to happiness
By Amy Robertson, 31st Oct 2011 | Follow this author
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A friend recently posed two questions - how unhappy is it possible to be? And how much are we prepared to do about it?
An escape to happiness
A friend recently posed two questions - how unhappy is it possible to be? And how much are we prepared to do about it?
To answer the first question, I am always amazed at how utterly miserable I can end up feeling, sometimes at seemingly trivial events. And equally puzzling is how emotionless I can feel at supposedly big events - which I put down to shock, but years later and I'm still waiting for my grand reaction. It reminds me of Love Actually, where the boy says he should be depressed about losing his mother but is actually pining after a girl.
Our emotions often make little sense. But each time we are hurt, it feels like it is more painful than the last time. Maybe we get better at coping. Maybe we accept that it is bound to happen. But I can feel as unhappy now as when I lost my dog aged nine or my heart was first broken at 19. And each time we think it can't feel as bad as this again.
So what are we prepared to do about it? Some people build walls around them - they make it as hard as possible to be hurt again. It sounds like it causes as much pain to self as others. Other people accept it - it is a part of life. And still others try to change their life so it is filled with less pain. This is always the option I have chosen - I move on so that I don't get too attached, I change countries so that everything is always new and exciting. And I don't buy a dog(!) or let anyone or thing get so close that they can do real damage.
Except now I am faced with the dilemma that if I change things once again, I risk losing a life I have built up that really matters to me. Have making positive changes become escapism? But if I stay, I risk real damage. So how much am I prepared to do about it? Is the bravest option of all to ride the storm and see how you wash up once it has calmed down?
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1st Nov 2011 (#)
Accepting the reality seems to be a better option to me.
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3rd Nov 2011 (#)
Interesting share. Thanks.
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17th Nov 2011 (#)
If you run from pain and possible heartbreak, you never stop running Amy.. Sometimes it is better to stand your ground and realise that even the saddest of experiences make us stronger along the way...
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