Are You the Same Person at Home as at Work? - May 4th's Thought
Do you have a persona that is that same at work as at home? Sometimes this can be positive and at other times it can be negative. How do you present yourself?
May 3rd's Thought
Having written May 3rd's Thought of the day (All is Fair in Love and War) about the question of love and synergy in family relationships I then found myself recollecting an experience from many, many years ago that could have a lesson for us all.
I once knew George, a very successful CEO (or at least it would seem so). Trouble was his success came at a cost.
At the office he had a fierce reputation for barking orders at his staff. He was not a military man, but had decided that his company should run as efficiently as a military operation. There was no such thing as teamwork, there was "get it done and do it my way" that was his management style.
I had known him many years, and certainly before becoming CEO and also knew his family. He considered himself a successful man, yet the day he took that job it changed everything for George. His greatest success also became his greatest failing. Suddenly everything at work was 'his responsibility' he became obsessed by success at work; this is when the 18 hour days started; indeed he was so obsessed by work success that he forgot his family relationships.
His style of barking orders became the habit not only at work but at home. His wife and kids had become troops in his army. They were convinced the old George was still inside somewhere and for a while they clung on to that hope. At some point it became clear that man no longer existed. Soon he had no family any more, although he still possessed his million dollar home it was still and empty for the majority of the time.
There are two ways to look at this:
George's persona was such that he became ruled by his work. It could be said that this became his mission in life. He was consistent at home. That is consistently less caring for his family - his dictatorial approach was not acceptable here and he lost his family because he treated them as a part of his empire.
Caring for all people around you reaps rewards. There can be no doubt about this. It is still possible to make tough business decisions yet be caring. The strong corporate leader can still have loving and caring relationships with those around them.
Of course not everyone wishes to become a corporate CEO, or necessarily hold a leadership role. That is of-course a personal choice.
The point is that it is still possible to have a consistent persona at work and at home and ensure that everyone around you has a good life and is proud to associate with you. That is a part of being successful in all situations; and a suitable return to May 3rd's Thought.
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