Are You the Same Person at Home as at Work? - May 4th's Thought

Peter B. Giblett By Peter B. Giblett, 4th May 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/lfahgomu/
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Do you have a persona that is that same at work as at home? Sometimes this can be positive and at other times it can be negative. How do you present yourself?

May 3rd's Thought

Having written May 3rd's Thought of the day (All is Fair in Love and War) about the question of love and synergy in family relationships I then found myself recollecting an experience from many, many years ago that could have a lesson for us all.

The Story

I once knew George, a very successful CEO (or at least it would seem so). Trouble was his success came at a cost.

At the office he had a fierce reputation for barking orders at his staff. He was not a military man, but had decided that his company should run as efficiently as a military operation. There was no such thing as teamwork, there was "get it done and do it my way" that was his management style.

I had known him many years, and certainly before becoming CEO and also knew his family. He considered himself a successful man, yet the day he took that job it changed everything for George. His greatest success also became his greatest failing. Suddenly everything at work was 'his responsibility' he became obsessed by success at work; this is when the 18 hour days started; indeed he was so obsessed by work success that he forgot his family relationships.

His style of barking orders became the habit not only at work but at home. His wife and kids had become troops in his army. They were convinced the old George was still inside somewhere and for a while they clung on to that hope. At some point it became clear that man no longer existed. Soon he had no family any more, although he still possessed his million dollar home it was still and empty for the majority of the time.

There are two ways to look at this:

The Bad

George's persona was such that he became ruled by his work. It could be said that this became his mission in life. He was consistent at home. That is consistently less caring for his family - his dictatorial approach was not acceptable here and he lost his family because he treated them as a part of his empire.

The Good

Caring for all people around you reaps rewards. There can be no doubt about this. It is still possible to make tough business decisions yet be caring. The strong corporate leader can still have loving and caring relationships with those around them.

Of course not everyone wishes to become a corporate CEO, or necessarily hold a leadership role. That is of-course a personal choice.

The point is that it is still possible to have a consistent persona at work and at home and ensure that everyone around you has a good life and is proud to associate with you. That is a part of being successful in all situations; and a suitable return to May 3rd's Thought.

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author avatar Retired
4th May 2012 (#)

Thank you, I am the same all round.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th May 2012 (#)

Maybe because I am not a CEO, I am able to forget office matters while at home and likewise, home while at office. Blessed are those who divorce home and office issues even when holding high office. Unless one is on a path breaking research, I feel better to keep in mind all the time that our work is only a means to an end - a happy family. Thanks for the timely reminder, Peter - siva

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author avatar Buzz
4th May 2012 (#)

We're all one one, Peter. I wonder why there's any difference between people at home and those at work.

One striking difference I know is, in our case, Wikinut does not condone a family as we know it, for people who ironically gets to love the site get ripped off.

Let me get this straight, it's only the Chief Nut who profits from the revenues generated by the Wikinut's "slave/writers." And you know, as everybody does, that's the truth.

As a moderator, of course, you will defend the site, as Mark always do, and that's understandable. Now you mentioned, one time, I should be proud of what I think, Peter. This is one of them thoughts, for the people and not for myself.

And so I wonder, being the purveyor of inspirational thoughts, whether you can defend the writers here on Wikinut without the slightest sense of bias as you once have been a foot soldier before becoming a moderator.

Now, who or which will you side with, our friend, Wiki admin or Wikinutters?

Sorry to put you on the spot, Peter. Just leave everything blank, if you can't comment, and we will understand. God bless!

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author avatar David Reinstein,LCSW
4th May 2012 (#)

When I behave badly or insensitively at home, my wife will ask (accusingly), "You wouldn't do something like that at work, would you?" The painful part is that the honest answer is often "Probably not."

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author avatar The Pencil Minstrel
4th May 2012 (#)

Being new here I am undesirous of investing myself in the politics of the site as I personally came to exercise whatever is left of this challenged memory bank in a safe place, to convey the contents of what is still available in this funky old cerebral cortex. When you get to sporting the numbers I do, you get an end game perspective.Too often if you give voice, or type to it, folks don't want to hear it. What you have blogged here opens up what could invoke days of discourse in a chat room, as well as the response given by Buzz. I do not know if I have already exceeded my allotted fonts in responding, so I will cut to the chase and give my own observation.After a lifetime of observing people in a myriad of situations both at work and at play, what I have seen to be a truth. Three things are paramount in a successful life, if you attend to them in the order I shall write them out, one can achieve content and a fruitful, fulfilled life. God, Family, Work. In that order, you give each one of these attention to the best of your ability (in the order conveyed) you will achieve rewards for your efforts. If you should disregard , get them out of order, or priority there will be conflict. My own personal opinion and sure to invoke disagreement. Unresolved conflict is such a detriment to that which is positive. I pray through communication whatever disagreements that has revealed itself here will be resolved. Blessings

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author avatar Val Mills
4th May 2012 (#)

i,m more relaxed & natural at home, not necessarily better or worse, though

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author avatar Don Rothra
4th May 2012 (#)

Nice work

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author avatar Delicia Powers
4th May 2012 (#)

I hope we all save the very best of ourselves for our family , and always strife to do our best at work..great article Peter, thank you.

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author avatar Pradeep Kumar B
5th May 2012 (#)

There are people who behave well at their office, but make a hell at home. I think everyone acts as slightly different persons at home and at office.

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author avatar Buzz
5th May 2012 (#)

First time in my mortal life, an administration like this could be so unresponsive and they think they can always get away with it, not to mention go on and live with it!

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
18th May 2012 (#)

Some of us have to put work first for the sake of our family. We can only do our best to be as understanding and respectful at home as well as work.

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