Changing Your Relationship With Food
Are you an emotional eater? Do you associate food with love or find yourself in the refrigerator and wonder how you got there? Are you ready to give up all of these bad habits? I am!!!
Changing Your Relationship With Food
First, I’d like to say congratulations for taking the first step to changing your relationship with food. Yes, that’s right; we all have a very personal relationship with food.
I, like many others, am an emotional eater. If you think about it, our relationship with food is very diversified. We eat out of pleasure, to entertain, mingle, out of boredom and/or loneliness and sometimes even to reward ourselves and others. Food can be an addiction or an obsession. It could make us love ourselves or hate ourselves. Most of us have a comfort food we eat when we are reminiscing or depressed. I feel if I get to the core of my eating behaviors, the pattern may be broken enabling me to have a harmonious relationship with food. Hooray!!!! We all desire healthy relationships in life, right? Why not have a healthy one with the one thing that is the most intimate part of every day – the one thing we actually NEED to live – our fuel, food.
I made a conscious decision to take control in order to ascertain how to change this relationship. A lot of my perception towards eating was instilled in me as a child. My mom’s favorite sayings were, “Food is like heaven”, “I don’t eat to live, I live to eat”. Unfortunately it was always while eating fattening, unhealthy foods. She would eat half a cake and a bottle of soda in one sitting. The person who was the closest to me had a very unhealthy relationship with food. She rewarded me with food, shut me up with food, and loved me with food. So I truly believe sometimes there are issues we need to address or change first, like in any relationship, before being able to really change it. Like our relationships with people we can choose to break up with the really bad foods that are not good for us. Of course we need to surround ourselves with food that is good for us. We can eat the fattening foods but think of it like some people who you can only take in small doses. I think I’m safe to say we all have them, well, some foods we should only have in small portions to keep the relationship healthy.
Stop and think about all of the occasions food is associated with. Most holidays have special fattening goodies as part of the celebration. Valentines Day has chocolates, Easter has jelly beans, chocolate and special Easter breads, Christmas has eggnog and pastries, Thanksgiving has stuffing, Birthdays and most celebrations have cake. We use food to celebrate, reward and have fun. It’s easy to see why we associate it with love, fun and happiness.
I believe if I start realizing WHY I’m eating it will change the patterns.
Is something triggering it?
Do I just want to be social?
Am I bored?
Am I frustrated or depressed?
Is it just a habit at this particular time or while doing a certain thing?
I will continue to monitor my food intake because it works for me. I will stop obsessing so much over certain foods. I find I can find healthy substitutions for most things that I enjoy eating. I think we forget that food is the energy we need to live as gas is the energy a car needs to run on. We eat to keep our body functioning. We need nourishment to survive and only need a certain amount. Anything over that amount stores as body fat if we are not working out. When it sounds that mechanical it doesn’t seem like such an intriguing relationship anymore, does it? It’s still okay to treat ourselves to all the festivities, but in moderation. Moderation is always the key with anything in life. It is my strong belief that too much of anything is not good for us; there should always be a balance.
I’ve always known my life’s mission is to help others through my experiences and here’s my chance. I look forward to my new relationship with one of the most intimate things in my life, food.