Depression: who are the real vampires in your Life
Depression sucks your emotions, your health and your vitality. Real vampires exist, but it’s not your blood they want. So who are they?
They are the people who drain your very essence, your vitality and your health and leave you feeling tired, anxious and vulnerable.
The vampires in your life may have no idea they are doing this to you. While it’s possible they are ‘out to get you’ most likely they are completely unaware. Keep that in mind. They have no idea their constant anger depresses you or that their high-energy personalities are draining you. Maybe they innocently go ‘on and on’ about physical complaints or perhaps they are highly distrusting individuals. Perhaps their ‘attitude’ is just so negative it adds to your depression or anxiety.
First things first
You need some time alone. You don’t have to do anything drastic, just try sitting out on the steps for a while. Now take stock of the people in your life. You have to pinpoint the ones who are draining you. Don’t try to judge them this is not about them. All you are doing is finding the underlying cause of how you feel around this person. It can be very difficult to admit to yourself that a loved one is at the root of your feelings of depression but it is vital to your health that you do this. Once you have pinpointed where the problem(s) lie you can get it out in the open and deal with it responsibly.
Deal with them
Once you have followed through with the above you have already taken the first step. You must now make a conscious decision to cut that persons ability to drain you off. Make up your mind, right now, not to allow yourself to be drained by anyone’s negative flow.
The next step is to tell the other person of your decision. There is no need to explain just tell them with all the conviction and love you can muster that….
• You seem angry all the time and I can no longer be angry with you.
• I realize you are in bad health and often don’t feel good and I sympathize with you but I no longer want to hear about it unless there is something I can do.
• You are just so energetic but truth is I’m not and the way you flit around all the time wears me out so I’m calling a time out.
• I realize you are having a tantrum but I am not going to share your tantrum with you. When you are over it come see me.
You will be surprised at how effective this method is and how much better you will feel.
What about antidepressants
Taking anti-depressants is a personal decision; discuss your feelings with your health-care provider. I can tell you this; there are two basic reasons for depression and anxiety, attitude and chemical imbalance. If you feel you may have a chemical imbalance please speak with a qualified doctor. There are several medications available and you need to be monitored while taking them.
How to get good and Angry and get over it
Disclaimer: I am not a health-care professional. The advice in this article comes from personal experience. The links shown above provide further information. Good luck and Hugs to you.