Depression: who are the real vampires in your Life

Elaine Chastain By Elaine Chastain, 27th Sep 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/.nwa1ee_/
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Depression sucks your emotions, your health and your vitality. Real vampires exist, but it’s not your blood they want. So who are they?

They are the people who drain your very essence, your vitality and your health and leave you feeling tired, anxious and vulnerable.

Understanding

The vampires in your life may have no idea they are doing this to you. While it’s possible they are ‘out to get you’ most likely they are completely unaware. Keep that in mind. They have no idea their constant anger depresses you or that their high-energy personalities are draining you. Maybe they innocently go ‘on and on’ about physical complaints or perhaps they are highly distrusting individuals. Perhaps their ‘attitude’ is just so negative it adds to your depression or anxiety.

First things first

You need some time alone. You don’t have to do anything drastic, just try sitting out on the steps for a while. Now take stock of the people in your life. You have to pinpoint the ones who are draining you. Don’t try to judge them this is not about them. All you are doing is finding the underlying cause of how you feel around this person. It can be very difficult to admit to yourself that a loved one is at the root of your feelings of depression but it is vital to your health that you do this. Once you have pinpointed where the problem(s) lie you can get it out in the open and deal with it responsibly.

Deal with them

Once you have followed through with the above you have already taken the first step. You must now make a conscious decision to cut that persons ability to drain you off. Make up your mind, right now, not to allow yourself to be drained by anyone’s negative flow.

The next step is to tell the other person of your decision. There is no need to explain just tell them with all the conviction and love you can muster that….
Examples:
• You seem angry all the time and I can no longer be angry with you.
• I realize you are in bad health and often don’t feel good and I sympathize with you but I no longer want to hear about it unless there is something I can do.
• You are just so energetic but truth is I’m not and the way you flit around all the time wears me out so I’m calling a time out.
• I realize you are having a tantrum but I am not going to share your tantrum with you. When you are over it come see me.
• Etc…
You will be surprised at how effective this method is and how much better you will feel.

What about antidepressants

Taking anti-depressants is a personal decision; discuss your feelings with your health-care provider. I can tell you this; there are two basic reasons for depression and anxiety, attitude and chemical imbalance. If you feel you may have a chemical imbalance please speak with a qualified doctor. There are several medications available and you need to be monitored while taking them.

Depression Screening
Mayo Clinic
Brookhaven Retreat
How to get good and Angry and get over it

Disclaimer: I am not a health-care professional. The advice in this article comes from personal experience. The links shown above provide further information. Good luck and Hugs to you.

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Anxiety, Anxiety Disorder, Blue, Coping With Depression, Depression, Emotional Wreck, Feeling Down, Feeling Tired, Mental Disorders, Mental Health, Miserable, Treatments, Unhappy

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author avatar Jerry Walch
27th Sep 2010 (#)

Right on, Redneck Lady. My wife suffers from Clinical depression and has for most of her life. Even her prescription meds no longer control it completely and just being around her at times can zap my energy. But, on the other hand, she's my vampire and I love her.

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author avatar Elaine Chastain
27th Sep 2010 (#)

Ahhh, that is so sweet. Yes, when our vampire is family we love them no matter. Thank you for the comment.

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author avatar Jenny Heart
28th Sep 2010 (#)

I know from this one I'll remain a fan. Excellent!

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author avatar Elaine Chastain
28th Sep 2010 (#)

Thank you so much Jenny!

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author avatar sir rob
28th Sep 2010 (#)

It just so hard to cope with it specially when you don't have anyone to lean on.

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author avatar Elaine Chastain
6th Oct 2010 (#)

You're righ Sir Rob. It's amazing how well just recognizing the problem works at helping us to cope. But having even that one person who understands is a great gidt.

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author avatar Elaine Chastain
28th Sep 2010 (#)

True Sir Rob, This is when a person just has to stand on their own two feet and do the best they can. I might add prayer is a wonderful tool.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
4th Oct 2010 (#)

in reply to your question.. to get the REFERRAL link at the bottom of my article - I put it in myself!

Just write "Join Wikinut Here" or something - then highlight it with your mouse - click the LINK button - then Insert URL- (the third option I think) and put your wikinut referral code in)

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author avatar Elaine Chastain
4th Oct 2010 (#)

Doing a *facepalm* Thanks Mark :)

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author avatar Retired
14th May 2013 (#)

Very powerful. Keep up the work my friend, we need more writers like you. I'll continue to follow your writings as you do the same for me. Thanks

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