How to Stop Making Life Harder for Others

Mark Gordon BrownStarred Page By Mark Gordon Brown, 26th Feb 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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Life should be fun but some people seem to go out of their way to make life miserable for others. They might be bullies, co-workers, or former lovers. Let us stop making life difficult for others.

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Life should be about our own enjoyment and happiness, and this can certainly be enhanced by being around happy people; so why would anyone go out of their way to make the people that they are around miserable?

Here are some of my ideas on how we can make life more enjoyable for everyone, including ourselves:

Make Peace with Your Ex Especially if you have Children

I assume that your ex is a person you use to love. Try to find common ground and work together. Too many people get into petty debates or try to sabotage the other person's chances to see the children, but in the end this hurts the children most of all. It takes two to fight, when you fight with them, they fight back, and nobody wins.

When people are angry they tend to lash out sometimes try to undermine the other parent, and unfortunately the children are caught in the middle, they become pawns, and I think we owe them better than that.

Help Others Do Not Hinder Them

How many times have you encountered a person that seems to get a cheap thrill out of making life harder for somebody else? They go out of their way to make another person's job, or life, more difficult. It is a waste of time to take the time to sabotage another person.

This includes simple actions like:

*Throwing our garbage away rather than littering and leaving it for somebody else to pick up.
*Cleaning up after our dog in public areas.
*Pushing our shopping carts back to the store rather than leaving them at the far end of the parking lot.
*Holding doors open for others, rather than just pushing through in front of everyone.
*If you see your co-worker, or classmate, struggling, see if you can help them. It does not take away anything from your own work to give them a suggestion.

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Share Unwanted Things

How many of us are lazy when we rid our homes of things we do not want? So many people just throw unwanted things in the garbage rather than letting somebody else have them. When we hoard things we make life harder for others who perhaps could use those items.

You can sell unwanted items, either listing them online or having a garage sale.

You can take unwanted items to your local thrift store.

You can even give them away. On a nice day take things and set them on your driveway with a “FREE” sign. Or see if there is a “Free Cycle” program in your area. In many areas charities will be happy to have your free things to sell at charity garage sales.

You can even take some unwanted things to work and see if your co-workers want them.

Gardeners can share their extra produce with their friends, family, or neighbors. When I had chickens and we had extra eggs, I would give some away and others I would sell for $1 a dozen (cheap because I want to promote free range eggs and help others eat cheaply).

Sharing your unwanted things is much better than taking things to the landfill and wasting them, plus it helps save other people money too.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
Raised in Michigan, I have a son who recently joined the Military. I am living in Canada with my wife where we have a hobby farm.

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Lot's of good practical advise here Mark. Great post.

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author avatar Rania, Jamie & Reni
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Dear Mark Gordon Brown,

Yes this is exactly how one should conduct one's life, and it definitely works exceedingly well.

Uthrania Seila

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author avatar Xavier Bage
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Your article is a song of Christian/human love in prose. You are singing it with your guitar. It left a joyful feeling in me.Thank you Mark.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
26th Feb 2013 (#)

There is always an underlyiing cause thatt needs too be addressed in order to make aa distinction whether it is harassment or just a mannerim.
In majority of the cases, many of uss fail too undderstandd or recognnisse the cause ffor such behavioouur, therebby letting it ffester till it becomes a force off habit rather than just a one off thing.
Many a times many people have fixed notions and double standards which initiates the frustrationn wwithin resulting in the mannerism.
Had a group of friends who tried hackkingg my works out here on Wikinut and yyou were aware of this. It was this problem that Sam refused to address and this resulted in my profile workss being deleted here on Wikinuut despite hhigh popuularrity which has also infiltrated my personal life in many ways.
While I look at this ssite as a learning step, I only hope andd wish Sam addresses the issue with coolness and calmness rather thhan makingg many goood writers just a statistic like he did with mine desppite having 130000 readers in less thn six months of writing efforts and heavy promotion in my style and methods which were successful enough to evoke the Hollywood bandwagon tto meet me in person and ask ffor my work.
So if Sam had been calm and addressed the problem with and objective mind, he probably would have been able to gain his popularity in a possitive way rather than the way he did as I loved my work and meant well for thee site back then.
My husband my my life hard too but am still with him despite his mental disabilities that brought about detriment iin our our dwelling.
Anger gives the solutiion you need but it iis momentary as there are always repercussions that create a bigger issue than the solution and which would make life perpetually harder for thhe whole world around.

By Anisha Achankunju (C) Lady Aiyanna 26th February 2013

Sent whatt Sam did to me to the Press in the UK AND TRADING STANDARDS because fans were coming in large numbers. Actually my fans did thhiss for me.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Pangs of using a mobile device is the spellings, sorry about that.

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author avatar Retired
26th Feb 2013 (#)

We all would do well to remember we are all one community and to show some compassion to others.

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author avatar Val Mills
26th Feb 2013 (#)

I've had far less money but enjoy life so much more since leaving an unhappy workplace. Unhappy people tend to think they should make life difficult for others. Nice work here.

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author avatar Buzz
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Thanks for the practical advice, Mark.

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author avatar tootsieharveynovels
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Some practical advice Mark.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Feb 2013 (#)

These are the right way to live, but some don't. Just like commonsense is not that common. When we do a good deed, that itself is the reward, pure bliss, having done our bit to make this world a better place and on top helping the Creator with all our might. All these will count in the end. Thanks Mark for a thoughtful post - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
26th Feb 2013 (#)

this is a great page Mark filled with such livable information if only people would do/live as you suggest..thank you

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
26th Feb 2013 (#)

this is great information on how we Should live but so many dont....thank you Mark

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author avatar Songbird B
26th Feb 2013 (#)

Wise advice in a world full of turmoil Mark..It doesn't cost anything just to be a little nicer and thoughtful towards others and to help this planet of ours out at the same time. Great Star article..\0/x

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author avatar David Reinstein,LCSW
26th Feb 2013 (#)

A lot of wisdom in a few words. Nicely done, Mark!

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author avatar Kingwell
27th Feb 2013 (#)

Great wisdom here my friend. Thank you for sharing.

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author avatar jpcmc
27th Feb 2013 (#)

Simple things really make a difference.

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author avatar Delicia Powers
27th Feb 2013 (#)

Very well said...

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author avatar Carol
27th Feb 2013 (#)

Great theme, it can make us all stop and think. Thanks Mark

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author avatar Susan Jane
28th Feb 2013 (#)

A life lived being kind to others is a life that is much better than one that tears other people down. Thanks for bringing the issue of making life harder for others to the forefront. You have lots of support for your strategies.

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author avatar Ptrikha
1st Mar 2013 (#)

Some nice tips to live well. Yet, some people would never behave good, and make others' life harder.

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author avatar Shaila Touchton
4th Mar 2013 (#)

Thanks for sharing excellent informations.

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author avatar rama devi nina
6th Mar 2013 (#)

Wise and wonderful, Mark! Thanks for sharing--great star page!

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author avatar madugundurukmini
7th Mar 2013 (#)

very interesting

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author avatar Djbrat
22nd Mar 2013 (#)

Hahah love this, one thing I pride myself on is I always push the grocery cart back to the holding pin. ♥

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author avatar Trillionaire
20th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for the great advice, and page moderation.

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author avatar Mariah
14th Jul 2013 (#)

Agree with all you say here 100 per cent, it's nice to be nice and the world is a much nicer place to be in, when we give and receive love and kindness, from simple good manners to putting ourselves
out to help others.
Well said

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author avatar Connie McKinney
4th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks for sharing some more great advice, Mark. These are simple things but we can all do them and make a difference.

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