Man gets and fogets, But god gives and forgives
To err is human but to forgive is divine. This article deals about a divine quality that man in endowed with, that is forgiveness.
- Forgive and Forget
- Lessons from my life
- Man gets and forgets, but God gives and forgives
- A Miracle
Forgive and Forget
Life is all about learning lessons. Some experiences teach us lessons in a beautiful kind way, and some the hard way. For some the hard way may leave an imprint of hatred and anger, for some it may leave them desolate, seeking refuge. Here, in this article I would like to share some of my personal experiences, about forgiveness.
Lessons from my life
Each person has an mental perimeter. Just like how animals define their perimeter in forest, we too have a perimeter defined for each of us. When a person encroaches into our mental perimeter we feel hurt. The main cause for begin hurt is expectation. Disappointment happened because of a prior 'appointment'.
In my 12th I had been selected as an sports meet escort, to Sathya Sai Baba(Personally I believe in HIM). Baba was one person who was very close to my heart. He was god to me. In my 12th I got a beautiful chance to escort him to the stadium( where the sports meet was to be held). On Dec 30th 2009 I came to know that my name was in the list of selected people for escorting Baba. My joy knew no bounds. But this happiness was short lived. One of my class-mates who did not make to the list, went and complaint against me to the Warden of our hostel. On Jan 1st New year day, 2010 Morning at 10.30 the warden called me and told me that I have been removed from Escorts. I was shocked, I was crushed, and I was heart broken. The beautiful chance to escort the 'person' whom I worshiped as god was stolen away from me. I was deeply hurt
Man gets and forgets, but God gives and forgives
For the next few days I was feeling very depressed and tears were rolling down my cheeks involuntarily. I was harboring hatred against the person who did this to me. When ever I saw him, I felt a rage with-in me. But in Baba's place we follow the ideal of "Brotherhood of man and Fatherhood of god". But how will I ever be able to love a person who Hurt me??
One day before going to bed, I was still in the depressed mood. I was praying to Baba to forgive me for my mistakes.I sat on my bed thinking about the "incident". As it is said, "It is only in the depth of silence that voice of God can be heard", Suddenly I got an thought in my head. It just said, " How can you expect God to forgive you when you dont forgive others??" Somehow I felt this thought very strongly. Though words were not coming from my mouth, I tried to tell, "God I forgive "x" who has done this to me. You also please forgive me". Initially It was tough for me to tell this but I repeated this statement something like 20-30 times. But at the end of this I felt lightness in my heart
That night I had a beautiful sleep. I also had an awesome dream. In my dream I saw Sai baba. He was coming in his car. I was standing near some road. Suddenly I found a bike near the road with keys plugged in it. So I took the bike and escorted Baba to His residence.
When I got up, I could still feel the dream. It was very real to consider it as a dream. I felt very very happy. This does not end here. Still I just felt that it was just a dream... I wanted it happen in reality. As the saying goes
"God upsets you plan so that He can execute His plan for us"
In my 1st year of college, I got selected in the university Brass Band. On November 22nd Convocation, The band had an opportunity to Escort Baba from His residence to A magnificent hall, The Sai Kulwanth Hall in prashanti nilayam (A place in Andra Pradesh INDIA). We also escorted the prime-minister of India Dr. Manmohan Singh on the day of convocation.
I also got a chance to escort Baba on Sports meet day 2011 Jan 11th. Thus my broken heart was fixed...
Being hurt is not bad, But to continue to harbor hate is bad. Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.. That will never happen, anger hurts the person more than the Incident
God delays, but never denies. Everything happens according to HIS will. Acceptance can save us from hurting ourself. Whatever god gives is the best for us. Leading life thus in sense of surrender and gratitude can make life truly beautiful!!!
Let us forgive the bad others have done to us, and forget the good we have done to others. As said earlier "Forgiveness" is a divine quality that man is bestowed with, Let us use it to make our life and others life better.
PS: for people who are interested in knowing about Sai Baba, please visit the link given below