Remember Who You Are--Not Who People Say You Are 12
We often look at ourselves and see the bad. We are really hard on ourselves. I’m fat. I’m ugly. I’m plain. I’m a failure. I’m shy. I’m uncoordinated. I’m different—one of my favorites. The list can go on and on and on. It’s all an illusion, a story we’ve been told about who we are that we bought into.
Healthy Relationships with Self, with Men, with Women
We often look at ourselves and see the bad. We are really hard on ourselves. I’m fat. I’m ugly. I’m plain. I’m a failure. I’m shy. I’m uncoordinated. I’m different—one of my favorites. The list can go on and on and on. It’s all an illusion, a story we’ve been told about who we are that we bought into. Something we were told and believed or something we told ourselves and believed. The truth is we are beautiful and we can do anything we set our minds to. Where do these self judgments, these evaluations come from? They come from everywhere in our world. Read More About Quantum Worth Healing
The moment we are born the process starts, maybe even before. We are seen for not what we are—beautiful and loving and loveable. We are seen for what society has programmed people or groups around us to see. We are boys. We are girls. We are black. We are white. The list goes on and on and on. If these were simply observations they would be harmless but they are most often used as ways to separate ourselves from one another. Our natural state is oneness—we are part of the whole. Yet, we go through each day separating ourselves from others. The first step is to work on not separating yourself and having self-empathy. Read More About Quantum Worth Healing
For example: You may tell yourself I’m not capable of having a good relationship with men because all the men in my life abused me—my father abused me, my boyfriends abused me, even my boy-friends abused me. This is just a story you’re telling yourself. The first step to breaking the illusion is to consciously (the unconscious believes this story) give yourself self-empathy. “I was abused by many men in my life and that makes me feel hopeless and judgmental of my relationship with men.” Consciously tell yourself the truth, just the facts, the observation not evaluation. “The story that I tell myself concerning my relationship with men is an illusion—just a story to help me cope. I can have beautiful, healthy, exciting relationships with men.” Every time the story comes up, consciously tell yourself the truth—you are reprogramming your unconscious to believe the truth. However, it is important to trace the triggers back and begin the healing process. Go back to the time your father abused you and give yourself empathy and tell your past self the truth. Go back to when the boyfriend abused you and do the same. And when others tell you the story of who you are, remember that they are living their own illusory story and give them empathy or open your heart with love. It doesn’t mean you go around telling people, “hey, you’re living an illusion.” That probably will not go over too well in most cases. But tell them the truth. I see you and you are beautiful—you can do this verbally or simply let it come into being, they will feel it either way. We’ll talk more about relationships with others in the next few pages. Click and Read Previous Post to this Relationships Series
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