Self Help for Control Freaks
By Mark Gordon Brown, 1st Sep 2010 | Follow this author
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Are you, or someone you know, addicted to the desire to control? Being a Control Freak may seem like a powerful thing, but sadly many of these people do not realize that they are not in control at all, but are controlled by their addiction to control. There are simple cures for this addiction if the person will admit they have a problem and attempt to fix it.
- Control Freaks are victims of their need for Control
- What they Miss Out on
- How does one break this desire to Control addiction?
- Other Links
Control Freaks are victims of their need for Control
Control Freaks are those people who feel they have to control every aspect of life, their surroundings and the people they deal with on a daily basis. I am sure there is some sort of psychological or medical name for this mental condition, in fact this mental condition is so complex that it may involve quite a few mental illnesses that have big scary names attached to them. I am not going to go into all of that here as I have something more important to deal with in this piece.
I want you to be aware that the desire for control is a dangerous and corrosive addiction that affects everyone that comes in contact with those suffering from it and actually has the ultimate control over its victim. That is right... if you are a Control Freak you are a victim of a disease, an addiction, and you are definitely lacking control and will never have control until you stop trying to control every aspect of life.
What they Miss Out on
Some control freaks are so dependant on their need for control they will not enjoy activities that require a person letting go of control.
For example, my wife, an admitted control freak, almost always drives the car, and refuses to go on roller coasters. We went to Sky Trek Adventure Park and while I struggled with the height, her biggest fear was the lack of control when on the Zip Line. She does not like not being in control.
Control Freaks who are Employers or Managers, a in work place miss out on opportunities to let others do some of the work. They want to oversee every thing, becoming micro-managers and not allowing others a chance to shine. They are so stuck on the fact they want things done their way, that they may not realize there is a better way of doing things.
How does one break this desire to Control addiction?
Here are a few common sense suggestions on how to break this addiction and really gain control of your life. The first step is to admit you are a control freak in a way that does not seem like you are bragging about it. Admit you are a control freak and that it is an destructive addiction.
Another trick is to put on a blind fold and allow somebody to lead you around or (if you do not get car sick) for them to drive you around.
The next step is to do things that are safe and where you are not in control. Go to a few amusement parks and ride the scary rides. At your job let someone else take on a responsibilities, even if you are the owner of the business. If you are on a sports team avoid showboating and let someone else have the glory of the winning catch.
Find other ways you can avoid being in control that are safe so that you can build up a security about having a lack of control.
Find the time to appreciate that others need chances to be in control, and some of them are pretty good at it too!
Try these suggestions and with time you can stop being a control freak by bringing the addiction of the desire to control under control and really gain control of your life.
Other Links
Your Subconcious Cannot Understand Negatives
Do your Employees Fear you, or Respect you?
The Joy of Looking Stupid
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1st Sep 2010 (#)
Mark, I always tell people that I am a recovering type A personality. I find that with mothers, we get so use to controlling our kids, as we should do while they're growing up, that it tends to bleed over to other aspects of our lives but, as I just have written...I am in recovery. :)
Congrats on the star page, it is well deserved.
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1st Sep 2010 (#)
bravo on teh star page this is great and I am learning a lot from you.
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3rd Sep 2010 (#)
Gotta love this post...
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9th Sep 2010 (#)
Very helpful and those links seem very helpful as well. Thank you for sharing, I can admit that I'm a bit this way as well. But that's the first step, admitting, right?
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7th Oct 2010 (#)
I'm a recovering type a too! Check out www.recoveringtypea.com. From one control freak to another, here's a discount code for your followers. 86WTTNBV for 40% off!
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26th Sep 2011 (#)
Thanks, I hope this will help me
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