Being Single: A Destiny or A Choice?

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They say its a destiny, others say its a choice. Why do other people would choose to be single than to get married?

Single life

Valentine's day is coming once again. A few days from now it will be celebrated all over the globe. Now singles out there, like me are not IN during this time. This is a special time for lovers to celebrate their love for each other. Of course all of us love ourselves but we cannot just give gifts to ourselves, we need a special someone to give that for us.

What is it to be single? Why can't everyone has his or her partner? Is it more blessed being single or being married?

Advantages of Being Single

Being Single has its Advantages and some of these are the following:

1. You have plenty of time for yourself.
2. You can save more money.
3. You will know yourself even better.
4. Get to bond with your friends more.
5. Get to be close with your family.
6. Freedom in Career
7. More time to Travel
8. Free do whatever you want in life- and flirt as you please

Its obvious, the advantages of being single is being independent, having lots of freedom, control, and focus in life and time for yourself and friends If you want to enjoy life more being independent and enjoy your salary, being single is the best option.

However, life is not always happy for singles, sometimes they would need emotional support and care from a special someone. But, because of so many reasons or factors, some people can't just easily find the right one for them.

You are free to like anyone you want, follow them if you want but the problem is with the person you admire, would he or she has the same feeling for you? It has to work both ways. Or sometimes, someone really likes you but then you don't have any feelings for that person. Others jump into one relationship to another while others cannot even enter into a single relationship.

Many people now are afraid to get into marriage and face the responsibilities with it. Some just does not want to leave their lifestyle or is contented with being single.

Advantages of Being Married

Being Married also has lots of advantages, so if your single here is what you should think about:

1. You have someone to share your love.
2. You have haven for emotional security.
3. Live longer and have less depression.
4. Fulfilling sex life and having your own children
5. You have someone to grow old with.
6. Have someone who knows and understands you deeply.

These are the benefits of getting married. But not all marriage are successful others turn to nightmares and later, partners could separate ways , leaving them as a single parent.

As you see when I am small, I always hear then, my parents' fighting and when my mother cannot stand it anymore, she would bring me with her first and leave the house as she does not want to see my father anymore, but that was before. For me if the man is not loyal and I find out he is really stupid, he can go and leave me as long as I have my children, I will be happy and contented even without him.

choice or destiny?

I don't know what happened to me, I thought I would marry early in life because as early as 7 years old, I have my love life but then things have change, many things happened and I got too busy with other things, I forgot to take love seriously.

I belong to the NBSB- No Boyfriend Since Birth. For me its part choice and part destiny. It's my choice not to make it my priority in life, destiny seems to have part also.

As you see in my father's side I have aunts who are not ugly and rather good looking but up to this time they are single. Maybe because of being too conservative. But my Titas or aunts also have Titas that got old being single and those Titas have also aunts that are single.

In fact we lived in a big old house owned by 2 single old woman together with their niece who turned old maid too. I don't know about the other generations before them but its about 3 generations and the patterns of old maids does not seem to break, I am not sure with my generation.

No problem with the looks that is why its one thing that really amazed me with my relatives, they chose to grow old being single. However, I believe its better to be married than single, so you experience having your own family and see your next generation still continues as you have your own children. It's really a blessing to find somebody or person meant for you. But, it's not bad to be single after all, and if I just want to have a kid why not adopt a child or take care of your baby cousins or niece and nephews.

Anyway, whatever comes our way being single or being married, we can still make our lives happy, sometimes we need to work hard for it to be happy in whatever situation we are in.

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Relation, Relations, Relationship Issues, Relationships, Relationships Dating, Relationships Love, Relatoinships, Single, Single Life, Single Women, Singles

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author avatar stephaniemorris26
26th Jan 2012 (#)

A lot of people make the mistake of thinking they have to have someone to be happy. Which couldn't be farther from the truth. Very good article! Oh and why not buy yourself something for V-day?? I would if I was not married.

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author avatar avery sandiego
26th Jan 2012 (#)

Nice comment....thanks

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author avatar ittech
26th Jan 2012 (#)

nice piece

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author avatar avery sandiego
26th Jan 2012 (#)

thanks

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author avatar Retired
26th Jan 2012 (#)

Well I am the been there done that type who got married when I was twenty years old and had my husband walk out in 2010 and make his own life in Australia leaving a wife and son behind in New Zealand. He was my first and only love in matrimony.
I have personally made a choice to have no other man/woman in my life as I burnt my hands in the relationship and with a man who posed as a friend just to steal my works for his own financial benefit.
So I would say it is more a personal choice wherein I NEVER want to see another man in my life again.
Honestly, Valentines Day of the modern period is too hyped wherein the world of today use it to lose their virginity and then sleep around with multiple people to satiate a desire forgetting that they are harming themselves by doing so not just physically, mentally, socially and spiritually too.
For me its just a normal day like any other in this world.
But I probably would go for a movie myself or go to work or write stuff that I love to write about and wish everyone around well in their own love life.
P.S. I never was interested in boys and men because I loved music and Michael Jackson too much (honest). I married because I liked the guy but whatever happened after that well apart from the good times and my son are best forgotten forever. We are married but from a distance. Not together for the sake of society. There will be no more for me.


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author avatar Retired
26th Jan 2012 (#)

Honestly, I love being a single mum. I have used my singhood to get back to what I used to be, modelling, music and writing apart from working two jobs and being a mum. Its stress free and I love it. My mum would second that too...

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author avatar avery sandiego
26th Jan 2012 (#)

that's true

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author avatar Jules Castillo
26th Jan 2012 (#)

thanks for being fair....hehehehe

to some, it's by chance...hahahaha

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author avatar avery sandiego
26th Jan 2012 (#)

hehehe...

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author avatar M G Singh
26th Jan 2012 (#)

A lovely and sensitive piece. I liked it. I think sometimes the stars also plan it that way

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author avatar avery sandiego
26th Jan 2012 (#)

yes, thanks

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author avatar Buzz
26th Jan 2012 (#)

Most men in our country who have remained single regardless of by choice or destiny, fear the coming of Valentine's Day. When the day comes, they'd seem to have this idea of putting on their best attire for the day, go to Luneta and be shot by a firing squad...lol

Great STAR, Aubrey.:D

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author avatar avery sandiego
26th Jan 2012 (#)

wahaha....

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
27th Jan 2012 (#)

You have written a heartfelt account of the advantages/disadvantages of marriage or a single life. Whatever your situation, I know that you have a very sincere and honest outlook and I think you will find happiness whatever you decide.

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author avatar avery sandiego
27th Jan 2012 (#)

thanks very much...

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author avatar Sheila Newton
27th Jan 2012 (#)

Superb theme - and a wonderful star page. Congrats.

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author avatar ittech
29th Jan 2012 (#)

Good to learn about it.

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author avatar AloneByChoice
4th Jun 2013 (#)

I am at my very best and happiest when I am not in a relationship. After two failed marriages and a string of bad relationships I have had enough of men's crap. I have no desire to date; the guys who are interested are losers, defective in some way. As soon as their negative qualities appear I am gone. I love to be independent and not have to answer to some guy. BTW, just because a person is married, there is no guarantee that their sex life will be good. For me, the best sex was when I was single.

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