amiekendall By amiekendall, 15th Jun 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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There's no right or wrong way to grieve and there's no telling how long it may take. Here you'll find information on the experience of bereavement and advice on ways to come to terms with loss.


To be bereaved usually means to lose someone we love through death. It results in a great longing for the dead person and a period of adjustment which may take years. All parts of our being may be affected - emotional, physical, spiritual and social - but the overriding feeling is one of intense pain, or grief.

•It's estimated that each day 500 women in the UK will become widows.
•It's estimated that 175,000 men in the UK become widowers each year.
•About 180,000 children under the age of 16 years lose a parent.
•About 12,000 children die in the UK each year
•Many others are affected by the death of a parent, a friend or a much-loved pet.
What is grief?
Grief is the name given to the natural reactions we have after the death of someone who's been close to us. Like with a physical injury, the recovery and healing process can take time. This period cannot be rushed and varies from individual to individual.

When we're grieving, it's difficult to understand what's happening. One of the ways in which we can understand better is to look at other losses in our lives, each of which requires a period of adjustment. Even a simple one such as losing a purse will produce a reaction. Initially, we may have feelings of disbelief, panic, confusion, leading to annoyance, anger and inconvenience. Life has been temporarily upset and it takes a while to adjust to the new situation. In time, we'll either find the purse or accept its loss.
Learning to adapt
Recovering from a death is similar but feelings are more intense, painful and last much longer. It too is a process of learning to adapt to the new situation. There's an empty space where before there was a living human being. We have to adjust to life without that person.

Our pain and suffering is the price we pay for loving. Any pain is tiring. A toothache can be relieved by an analgesic or a visit to the dentist, but the acute pain of grief is constantly with us, unrelieved by any painkiller. While we're going through the pain, it's difficult to believe that we'll ever enjoy life again. But in time our grieving will ease and gradually life will become more bearable and even pleasurable.



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author avatar amiekendall
i work 35 hours a week i am 23 yrs old i like to write reead and crochet. i am also studying bookkeeping and accounts. i lso write about what is in the news and poetry, i am writing for triond for over a year but not getting much from them.

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author avatar C. Michael Davis
26th Jun 2010 (#)

Bookkeeping? You should be a councilor. I know I should learn how to spell. Lizzy usually cleans up my spelling if spell check is not available but she is out. I am enjoying your materials.

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author avatar amiekendall
27th Jun 2010 (#)

really i never thought of that how would i become a councillor

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