Change the way you think and let go of fear

RaydaJ By RaydaJ, 23rd Feb 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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how to deal with fear and anxiety and learning how to cope on one's own

Influence your brain

Have you suffered in almost every relationship, whether it was professional or romantic because of fear? Do you freeze before an interview? Do you inadvertently wreck a relationship because you come across as needy and insecure? Well, you can change it all by changing the way you think and influencing your brain. Anxiety starts in the brain. You become hot and sweaty. You feel like you’re going to choke. When you don’t nip this in the bud right away, it becomes full-blown fear. And really, when you think about it, fear is just a four-letter word; how much can it hurt? It can hurt a lot and to the point where you choke up with and think you are going to pass out or die. You have an urgent need to pee or throw up, and become even more afraid by the proximity of people in the life, squirming and suffering and feeling so claustrophobic that you want to break down the elevator door.

Owning your fear

A writer posted a comment on my blog recently to tell me that she had so much anxiety that she was afraid to leave the house. I took the time to write to her and respond. She wrote me back to thank me for the article because she felt it had helped her. Fear is like that. It can come upon you suddenly, but it can also dissipate at the same rate. Your first thing to do here is own your fear. Have some time alone at home and think about your fear. Stretch the discomfort of revisiting those memories and images until breaking point. You will see afterwards that nothing has happened; that the sun is still shining and no one has harmed you. Own your fear. Thank your fear for having been with you for so many years. Thank your fear for being your protector. Tell your fear that you are grateful for what you have learned and how it has armed you, but that it is time now to say goodbye.

Mantra for change

When you get up in the morning, first thing is to thank God for another day you have survived. Thank God for providing you with protection all the years. Tell your fears not to worry about you anymore and then firmly and gently tell your fears that you can manage your life without its assistance now and that you want it to go away. Of course, you are talking to yourself, and are reaffirming certain things you want in your life. You are also creating a reverberation in the atmosphere. With the advent of the internet and instantaneous messaging, technology today has provided a way, with the click of a button, to give instant comfort. For that reason and no other, this writer is writing articles and not working as much as she should on finishing writing her new book.


Afraid To Be Alone, Anxiety, Fear, Fear Of The Unknown, Panic Attacks

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author avatar RaydaJ
Published novelist of ten books, dozens of short stories, and hundreds of articles. Will focus on health which has many areas, and on parenting.

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author avatar Denise O
23rd Feb 2012 (#)

Nice read. Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Carolan
23rd Feb 2012 (#)

so very right RaydaJ...thank you much

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author avatar ittech
24th Feb 2012 (#)

Great share, thank you.

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author avatar RaydaJ
25th Feb 2012 (#)

thank you all

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