Children's Personality are Somewhat Influenced by the Adults They Meet

Carol RoachStarred Page By Carol Roach, 26th Mar 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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Part of our personalities are determined by our DNA but much of it is determined by the people we meet who impact upon our lives.


At the beginning of the series we started off with a question, then we got into criminal defense and personalty and then some theories of personality development by the early psychoanalysts. Now let's look at that first question again.

Do we really know who we are? Or, are we who other people want us to be? As you all know the parents play an important role in the development of a child, but they are not the only influences.

We are influenced by the many people we meet in life

When children begin to explore the world, they go out to school, they make friends, they join social groups, play sports and so on. All of these people whom they come in contact with influence their personality.

Sometimes children
grew out of these influences if they do not find any meaning for them anymore. However, some of these influences will play major roles in their personality type as they grow up.

Teachers are a big influence

Teachers are are a big influence on children. A child who is told he or she cannot learn, more often than not gets discouraged and does not try to learn, or take on new challenges, simply because these feelings of inferiority have been ingrained. These children begin to feel they are stupid based on another person's assessment of them.

A school aged child who is told anything by a peer or a mentor will believe it. Peer pressure is a one of the main influences on the growing child. Children who are told they are ugly begin to believe it even when their parents and other adults tell them it is not so. The internalization of these feelings can build an ego or break it depending upon what is said by their peers. Erikson, noted that peers are actually the strongest influence in an adolescent's life. They distance themselves from their parents and follow the crowd. It is so important for a teen to feel like they fit in. When this doesn't happen the teen can carry these feelings of inadequacy all their lives.

Teenagers who have trouble making friends, or who have trouble with dating, can grow up shy and avoid people, or just not try to get a date thinking nobody wants them anyhow. Without friends, children and then adults have poor social skills, which further isolates them and makes it even harder to make friends.

to be continued

Some links to previous articles in this series

Human personality and how it shapes our identities

Theories of Personality and the law

Nature versus Nurture and the law

John Locke and Sigmund Freud on Personality

Sigmund Freud and the super ego

Did women ever want to be men?

The stages of life according to Sigmund Freud and Erik Erikson

Erickson's Later Personality Stages of Life

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author avatar Retired
26th Mar 2015 (#)

Yes, it's all about learned behaviour. We all learn from those around us. I enjoyed reading your article, very interesting. =)

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author avatar Kingwell
27th Mar 2015 (#)

I agree with you and I'm looking forward the next post in the series. Blessings.

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