Cure of Shyness

giftarist By giftarist, 9th Feb 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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When looking for a cure for shyness (or the more serious counterpart social phobia), keep in mind that it didn't just happen, and it won't go away instantly. The chances are great that if you are shy today, you will have shyness every day for the rest of your life.

Shyness Treatment

While many therapeutic treatments have been tried, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is the only modality that has been proven to work effectively. With CBT the therapist will help you work toward the goal of changing incorrect perceptions into rational and accurate thinking. Using tools as role plays, acting, a tape recorder, or a video camera, you will use specific strategies to overcome your anxiety-producing fears.

For example, if you dread job interviews, working with a trained therapist, you will practice interviewing again and again until your anxiety is reduced. Your therapist will help you practice special techniques to reduce anxiety until you conquer the phobia. Some shy people have seen tremendous results in as few as 12 individual sessions with a licensed counselor.

If shyness simply makes you a bit nervous - but not phobic - try exposing yourself to the situations that bring on anxiety. Keep in mind that avoidance engenders more avoidance. In many psychotherapy groups, role-playing feared situations with other group members help shy people face the "monster" of fear. Do this in small steps so you won't feel too nervous with each step.

For example, if you have difficulty speaking before your coworkers at the weekly meeting, try giving your report in front of a mirror. Tape-record your voice as you do this, and then play back the tape. Once your confidence rises, give the report to your spouse or a good friend. Ask them to videotape you, and watch the tape repeatedly.

Ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that can happen?" Sometimes if you can move beyond fear of the "worst that can happen," you can begin to conquer your demon of shyness.

Related to:
Shyness or Social Phobia?
The Positive Side of Shyness

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author avatar Denise O
10th Feb 2011 (#)

I hear you. When I was a girl scout leader I would get so nervous when I had to talk in front of the girls parents. My first year I had 29 girls in my troop, now then add in their parents and their siblings and the school's auditorium would be packed. The first time I had to stand up in front of every one, I was so nervous I thought I was going to puke righ then and there. I got through it and then the next time, I prepared myself. I went over my speech with my family and as time went on, it got easier and easier. So I agree, practice on those you feel comfortable around at first and more than just once. Be prepared. Good read.
Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Humza
24th Mar 2011 (#)

very true!! ur tips really do work but its hard very hard, i am very shy speaking i public and thats what hampers my participation, I just want to get over it!
And am trying!
thnx alot for the share

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author avatar David Reinstein,LCSW
22nd Jul 2012 (#)

Shyness (extreme introversion) is not necessarily an illness that calls for intervention, treatment or change. It is a legitimate temperament.... Our culture tends to identify it as a deficit - it isn't necessarily so. When it is so severe as to interfere with a person being able to lead a satisfying life, that, then, is a horse of a different color.

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