Eliminating Toxic Thinking

Helen ThomasStarred Page By Helen Thomas, 7th Feb 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/twhpli8u/
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Despite the challenges and obstacles that we all face, we can be joyful and take comfort in knowing that nothing shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus.

What Does The Word Toxic Mean?

Definition of toxic by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus ...

1) of, relating to, or caused by a toxin or other poison.

2) capable of causing injury or death.

Toxic Thinking May Lead to Toxic Relationships

In our Creator's Wonderful Book of Teaching on Life and Love, we find this amazing statement in the Twenty Third Chapter of Proverbs: For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

Psychologists tell us that toxic, past negative experiences can become ingrained in our psyche. In an article published by Rosemary K.M. Sword in Psychology Today, we're told to beware of toxic relationships and vow to make a change.

The tendency to unconsciously seek out toxic relationships frequently starts with past negative experiences when we are children and might carry on throughout our lives. They can become so deeply ingrained in the way we think and feel that we don’t realize we are steeped in toxicity until—or hopefully when- someone else points it out. The toxic person in our lives (and maybe it’s us), is generally concerned about themselves and their needs; the relationship is classic codependent. The worse form is when that other is your partner or mate, supposedly there forever!

Generally in a toxic relationship you don’t bring up how you feel; maybe you don’t want the person to be angry because they hold some sort of power over you, or you are holding on to the dream that one day they will wake up, realize their transgressions and make good. And if you do mention their offense, it’s likely to be a backhanded use of passive-aggressive behavior that only you recognize—so it is ineffectual in changing anything for the better.

Steps To Ending Toxic Relationships

Without commenting on them, I have listed Three of Five steps to end a toxic relationship shown in an article from Psychology Today from August 2013:
Identify the perks. All relationships, even toxic ones, have hidden benefits. Or why would you stay in them? So identify the perks. Determine what, specifically, you are getting from this relationship. Does X make you feel attractive and sexy? Does helping X with her kids even though it exhausts you relieve your guilt in some twisted way because you feel like your life is easier than hers? Even though X doesn’t treat you well, does she remind you of your verbally abusive mom, and therefore bring you a (toxic) comfort level?
Fill the hole - Find alternative sources of peace and wholeness - nourish yourself. In other words, do things that make you feel better and in ways so that you don’t have to rely on others. For instance, revisit that project you put on the back burner, learn meditation or call friends, and remind yourself that you won’t feel this way (sad, angry, upset) forever.

Surround yourself with positive people. Hopefully these folks are working on their boundaries as hard as you are; they aren’t enmeshed in their fair share of toxic relationships and therefore become somewhat toxic themselves. The stuff is contagious. Be smart about whom you choose to hang out with..

Make An Effort To Let Peace Rule In Your Heart

In spite of the challenges that we face living on earth, provision has been made for us to enjoy life to the full. According to 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 in our Creator's Wonderful Book of Teaching on Life and Love, We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed.

Be encouraged. Let peace rule in your heart. Realize that all things work together for good to those who love God, who are called according to his purpose. {Romans 8:28}

We Are More Than Conquerors

For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him that loved us. {From The Eighth Chapter of the Book of Romans in our Creator's Wonderful Book of Teaching on Life and Love ~ Verses 38 and 39}

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Changing Your Thoughts, Get Rid Of Anxiety, Get Rid Of Bad Attitudes, Poison, Thinking Good Thoughts, Thinking Through Complexities

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author avatar Retired
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Great article, well done :)

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thanks ~ Mizz Panda ~ for your kind comment. Blessings to you!

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author avatar spirited
12th Feb 2014 (#)

we can certainly get used to thinking in a negative way, and keep the habit going.

Yes, that would be like poisoning ourselves wouldn't it?

I like how you bring everything back to God.

The closer we stay to God, the more we can leave these toxins behind, or replace them with his living water instead.

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Absolutely ~ Spirited ~ everything back to God ~ since as 1 Corinthians 1:30 says Christ Jesus is made unto us Wisdom. My belief is that ~ In Him ~ I live ~ and move ~ and have my being.

God Bless you ~ and Thanks for your comments.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thats what I love about your writings Helen, awesome indeed!

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thanks ~ Fern! I appreciate your support and encouragement.

Richest Blessings to you.

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author avatar Legend
12th Feb 2014 (#)

A good share! Certainly the path to happiness starts from within!

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thanks for your comment ~ Legend! YES ~ that is so true.

God's best to you!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Positive post Helen. I always take a role of being a co-creator and live life that way; so toxic thinking has no place as it is rejected outright, sort of a built-in firewall. When we live with past hurts we are only punishing ourselves - siva

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thanks ~ Siva ~ for your support. I appreciate your insightful comments.

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author avatar Delicia Powers
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Very uplifting...thank you Helen...

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you Delicia for your kind comment. May God bless you richly!

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Feb 2014 (#)

THANKS ~~ Mark ~~ for your moderation and for the Star Rating. I appreciate it.

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author avatar Mariah
13th Feb 2014 (#)

Very insightful post Helen, I enjoyed reading this, thank you

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author avatar Helen Thomas
14th Feb 2014 (#)

Thanks ~ Mariah ~ for stopping by and sharing your kind comment. Blessings to you from above.

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
13th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you Helen for your daily uplifting and encouraging words .
God bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar Helen Thomas
14th Feb 2014 (#)

Thanks ~ Stella ~ for your encouragement. The Word of God is living and powerful and I so enjoy sharing it. Abundant Blessings to you.

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author avatar DeBorrah K. Ogans
13th Feb 2014 (#)

Great article! "The TRUTH WILL set you FREE!" This is why we so need the Lord! Spiritual Discernment is so important! It helps us to keep healthier safe boundaries! Thank You for sharing,
In His Love, Peace & Blessings!

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author avatar Helen Thomas
14th Feb 2014 (#)

Hello and THANKS ~ DeBorrah. YES ~ our Lord helps us through His Word and by His Spirit to keep healthy safe boundaries ~ and to eliminate toxic thinking. May His best be yours.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
13th Feb 2014 (#)

Helen, what an inspiring, uplifting post. Nice work.

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author avatar Helen Thomas
14th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you so much ~ Connie. I appreciate your kind comment. Blessings to you.

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
8th Aug 2014 (#)

Helen, excellent writing. I love the words you use to express positive thinking. I try to always be positive, happy and uplifting to others. God Bless you.

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author avatar Helen Thomas
8th Aug 2014 (#)

Thanks ~ Nancy. I so appreciate your gracious comments. I find that concentrating on the free and undeserved love and favor of our Creator helps us to keep a positive attitude. Abundant blessings to you.

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
8th Aug 2014 (#)

Thank you Helen for the Abundant blessings. I hope you have a wonderful day.

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