Labeling our Friends

Carol Roach By Carol Roach, 23rd Jul 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/32u8y7qg/
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Sometime labels we put on people are important to get them medical help and so on but other times they are just needless references to show unnecessary differences.

We all label people

Have you ever noticed how children and adults alike are often described by their differences? Sometimes we do it and we don’t even realize we are doing it. This sort of labeling is often discriminatory.

For example, calling a person who has broken the law a criminal is a label. Though it may be true; that very term is too broad, as it can be used to describe a mass murder down to a kid who stole a baseball mitt just once in his life

Labelling is often used to show a differece.

We put labels on everything. They are short phrases to describe somebody or something. More often than not the label is meant to show a difference of some sort.

For example, how many people told you they met a white man somewhere? If the people telling you are white they leave out the color of the person they met. However, when it was a black man that they met they, more often than not, will mention his color.

Appearance is often used as a label. The guy with the glasses, the brown haired girl, the ugly kid, the skinny kid, the guy with the bald head and the girl with the limp are examples. Many times the difference is also disabilities that are pointed out.

For example, the man in the wheelchair, the schizophrenic guy, the crazy woman, and so on.

Unnecessary labeling

All my life I was referred to as the fat girl. I was not carol, I was not even human. I was described as my shape. I am much more than my shape. I am a person with thoughts and feelings and character just like anybody else.

I totally despise that kind of labeling. Yet I caught myself doing it today. I wanted to write about having a pleasant outing with a friend of mine. It would be sufficient to say I had coffee with this man and that we hadn’t had a chance to get together in almost three years. There was always something that happened to makes us break our plans.

Instead of saying it like that I was going to say I had a coffee with my blind friend. I instantly caught myself and realized I had just put a label and a limitation on this man that was absolutely not necessary. The fact that he is blind does not change the fact that we had a wonderful afternoon together. We had coffee and great conversation.

Note: I am taking about avoidable labeling some labels are necessary such as nurse, doctor, lawyer, medical labels to help treat a condition and so on. I am talking about the unnecessary labels that we apply to various people all the time.

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Blindness, Handicaps, Labeling, Labels, Obese, Physical Features, Stereotypes, Sterotyping, Unnecessary Labeling

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author avatar Carol Roach
Retired therapist and author of two books, freelance writer, newsletter editor, and blogger. I write, health, mental health, women's issues, animal , celebrity, history, and SEO articles.

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author avatar Andy Aiyanna
23rd Jul 2015 (#)

Well I usually go out with my Invisible Boyfriend and kiss the lips of the one Above. Now for a grown up it is crazy stupid but for me it's normal as I like being alone although many open up to me.
But it's no ones business of the way I am so long as I don't create a melt down.
I call my husbands concubine the Aussie French pornstar as he told the world we were divorced and I still haven't seen the divorce papers although he meets the family often. Any way he can make cat eyed babies with her and pay his child support now.
I have so had it with regard to his philandering.
And now I am absolutely positively sure I want no other but my one above.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
23rd Jul 2015 (#)

Guess I was too late. Someone impersonated me. Who is Andy? Are you doing this?

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author avatar Shamarie
23rd Jul 2015 (#)

Good post, Carol! I agree that we all are guilty of labeling people and things!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Jul 2015 (#)

Labeling is common but if it is used as a put down, then it is not on. I never do even in casual conversations for the simple reason - do unto .... siva

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