Parenting a child who has dark thoughts

RaydaJ By RaydaJ, 26th Mar 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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Determining whether your child's dark thoughts are dangerous for him and for others

Strange and unusual

Is your four year old a quiet little boy who spends most of his time alone and is preoccupied with dissecting frogs or hurting the kitten or dog? Have you seen him perpetrate an evil act against another child? Have you been to a doctor about it and do you have a gut feeling that what he is doing is strange and unusual? Trust your instinct. A parent knows instinctively when something is wrong. Your sister has children and her children aren’t like that; they play with other children and have the usual playmates. We have also seen films where children indulge in strange behavior and are called bad seeds no one wants to play with. Would your child push another child off a high ledge?

Not normal behavior

Just as you would take a sick child or one who has an infection to a doctor, you should make an appointment with a child psychologist to see if something is the matter with him. We have had several examples of child killers who have indulged in strange behavior with other children and who have also swung cats against the wall, kept a dead body in a fridge, or disemboweled his or her own pet. This is not normal behavior and should be taken seriously and investigated. No one wants to believe that someone can be that evil but history has shown that debauchery and crimes against children are alive and well everywhere in the world. No one wants it to be their child, but the reality is there for all of us. We can’t blame the child if his wiring is faulty and he needs psychotherapy, but we can do something by telling a family member who is in denial that the child needs to be examined by a doctor and seen to.

Signs to watch out for

• The child has no friends and does not even play with his sister.
• He is preoccupied with lizards and mice which he keeps in his room and eventually dissects.
• He is afraid of children getting too close to him.
• He wards off friendships with other children.
• He is secretive and evasive and displays no love and affection towards his siblings.
• His mother is afraid to chastise him or say anything and the family lives in fear and disbelief.
• He locks his bedroom so no one can enter.

That is not to say that every child who is broody and a little strange is a killer in the making, but it is better to err on the side of safety. You will satisfy your own mind and also protect the rest of the family by seeking professional help and sticking with the therapy for as long as it is necessary.


A Loner, Dissects Lizards, Hurts Pets, Quiet

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Published novelist of ten books, dozens of short stories, and hundreds of articles. Will focus on health which has many areas, and on parenting.

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author avatar Cnwriter
26th Mar 2012 (#)

oh wow RydaJ some very important things you share here...thank you

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
27th Mar 2012 (#)

The little boy needs counselling, he has been through emotional and psychological trauma. Such kids usually grow up to be deviants when they are adults unless they are checked and corrected before the age of 6 as that is when the personality actually sets.
The parents of such a child need to look at the homefront and see why they are behaving this way as that is what is the cause of what is happening. Its the form of attention seeking and mindfully aware that their caretakers don't care much for them and they reflect the same on those animals that they are cutting up and things that they are destroying.
Such kids need things that can heal them and they come in the form of music, sports, books, performing and at times a play way method of teaching them about good and evil.

Personal Story:
I loved killing caterpillars (with a food masher) and giving them to the family to eat along with mud. Well, I finally given real things to cook with and learnt how to get my life in place because someone observed, listened and told what was happening. I was just hyperactive and suppressed with regard to the gifts that I have and found an above average intelligence that never did quite fit anywhere but with likeminded people who went through similar things.
The above analysis a page from book but not as bad as what was described.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
27th Mar 2012 (#)

I am a loner, sit in my room most of the time and write and don't let people get close to me any more - the reason - my gestures are mistaken and I become a criminal in their eyes and they spread malicious and vile rumours of who I really am and ruin who and what I really am.
So personally prefer sitting away and observing the lot at play but do join in if they are willing to accept me as I am, which is extremely rare and that is the memory that hits them for a lifetime...

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author avatar Grace
3rd Aug 2012 (#)

Sounds like a child with reactive attachment disorder

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