Pornography ruins our children

SilentWriter By SilentWriter, 8th Jul 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Do you know what your children are up to? Maybe you should take more notice..

Why?

According to a recent survey, 40% of children aged 11 had seen some form of pornography, with this figure rising to 90% when 17 year old young people were asked. Today, pornography is too easily accessible, and the legality of it is never questioned, and the viewer almost certainly won’t be “punished” for watching illegal movies on-line.

We all know about pop up blockers and website blockers, but with hundreds of thousands of proxies (websites which you go through to bypass any block), children are still managing to find these images. Also, 60% of 11-16 year old individuals admit that they’ve either got hardcore images on their mobile phone, or they’ve seen them on a phone of a close friend. Nobody can put a block on their mobile Internet, and this is a worry.

So, what damage could it do? Well, anyone who’s ever seen one of these movies must know how unrealistic they are. All involved are fabulous actors and actresses, with unbelievably attractive bodies, and a clear talent for “bedroom activities”. It is thanks to these videos that this generation of young people have such insecure body images, and so many worries about when they should be having sex, who with, and how. Also, in the 1980s, female pubic hair was considered normal, whereas now women feel “dirty” if they have it; because of what they, and their partners, have seen in pornography films or magazines.


You might be wondering how you can stop this from happening. I don’t think you can actually stop it from happening unless you sit with your child whilst they use the Internet, but they certainly wouldn’t thank you for that, and it may lead to them feeling as though you don’t trust them. If you do take this approach, make sure you tell them that it isn’t them you don’t trust, it’s the other people who post things on the Internet.

Sit and have a chat to them about sex, and try to banish any myths that they might have heard. If you’ve told them everything they need to know about it, they might not go on-line for the answers they feel they are missing. If you think your child is mature enough, talk to them directly about pornography, and tell them the reasons that you choose not to view it. Giving them options makes them feel trusted, and they will be less likely to break the trust that way.

If all else fails, you need to ensure that they 100% understand that they things they watch and see are not real. If they believe in them, they will feel as though they have to match up, and will only be disappointed when they find out that they can’t compete, most of the time, with what they’ve watched on the Internet.

It is my view that this is a government problem; the laws aren’t strict enough, and there aren’t enough punishments for the illegal viewing of pornography. But, in the meantime, all that we can do is try to help our own children, and hope that we can speak to them before they’ve already seen things that might change their lives.

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I am a 21 year old girl doing a degree in Psychology :-).

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author avatar satan fury
9th Jul 2010 (#)

A very good and thought provoking article. Parents should not buy high tech cell phones such as Blackberry, apple phones or Ipods for their kids. Internet features should be limited as well as wi-fi hot spots available at most locations now.

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author avatar Mr Arrogant
9th Jul 2010 (#)

Felt good reading your article

great work done!

Thanks for the share!

Will look forwards for more articles like this from you ! So will be visiting your page for other good articles like this one!

Regards,
Mr Arrogant

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author avatar Erik Murphy
7th Aug 2010 (#)

Very much in agreement regarding insecure body images caused by this.

But what can you do, really.

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author avatar LOVERME
20th Aug 2010 (#)

the worldchanged so must our perspective it only shows that parents
have a greater role to play today
which they all still shirk
god bless them

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