Recovery is Like a Puzzle: Learn to Examine the Pieces

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“Don't beat yourself up for not knowing the answers. You don't always have to know who you are. You don't have to have the big picture, or know where you're heading. Sometimes, it's enough just to know what you're going to do next.” ― Sophie Kinsella, The Undomestic Goddess

The BIG Picture

Sometimes seeing the big picture is just too much - overwhelming stressful and seemingly impossible to comprehend. Just about the time, we think that we have two pieces that seem to join; we discover that they do not. When this happens, people often feel overwhelmed, fearful and confused.

One Piece at a Time

Learn to separate the various pieces of the puzzle, so that looking at recovery is easier and less overwhelming. Start with the big picture: 100%, and then break that down into its separate pieces or issues and assign a percentage to that part of the bigger picture.

For instance, “I am 100 % overwhelmed and confused about recovery”. The percentages and issues are:

• 50% is all I have to do for treatment
• 30% is guilt over past actions
• 10% is scared about meeting new people and giving up my old friends
• 10% is fear of people not liking the new me

Now you can see that you have identified 100% of the reasons for feeling overwhelmed and confused.

Create Concrete Plans for Now and Later

Determining actions for now and later can help you plan concrete steps. With just this simple isolating exercise, you then concentrate on actions to manage each issue. As you isolate the big picture into its separate issues, or change your perspective on it, most people feel less confusion and fear.

In addition, the confusion and fear are often replaced with other positive feelings and attitudes such as:

• Confident
• Disciplined
• Encouraged
• Satisfied
• Positive
• Proud

People Will Notice the Changes

Just as you will feel differently by taking actions to correct an issue, other people in your life, such as peers in recovery, coworkers and family will also notice a more self-reliant person. It they pay you a compliment about these changes, there is an appropriate comment, “Thank you.”

Any rebuttal for their compliment is in effect telling them that they are wrong to notice a positive change. It is like someone complimenting a job well done and responding, “It wasn't anything special.”

Yes, it is special; it is an indication of your commitment to making changes in your life and your recovery. It takes courage to change and hard work to make life changes. Even if you judge the issues to be trivial or assume that other people figured out how to cope with something years ago, the fact is that only now are you beginning to deal with these issues.

So, What Is Next?

Once you learn to view the pieces of the puzzle and take appropriate actions to modify or change them, this exercise works for most situations when you are feeling overwhelmed, confused or fearful.

Write for Wikinut and Find Your Viewers

People need to know that recovery is possible. There is a committed group of viewers who support recovery here at Wikinut. What would you like to add about your recovery, or help that is available to those struggling with an addiction?

I hope that this will encourage you to check out Wikinut; see if your ideas and style would be a good fit. Your story may just be what someone needs as the encouragement to recover.

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Alcoholics And Recovery, Changes, Deal With One Thing At A Time, Examining The Pieces In Your Recovery, Isolating The Variables, One Thing At A Time, Recovery, Recovery From Addictions, Recovery Is Like A Puzzle, Recovery Pieces

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
A Certified Addiction Recovery Empowerment Specialist, with 25 years of abstinence-based recovery. I write about addictions, recovery, life lessons and general writing tips.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good evening, Mark; thank you for moderating and the star. I appreciate both. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good article, indeed recovery is a puzzle and sometimes we feel like the pieces are missing.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good evening, Mark; thank you for the comment. It can seem overwhelming, so I learned about 25 years ago to isolate variable, break the bigger picture into smaller pieces and then either find or seek a solution from others. Again, thanks for the comment. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Margaret Michel
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Very informative!

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good morning, Margaret; thank you. I hope that people also realize that this works for most large issues. Breaking things down into smaller increments makes any job easier. Thank you for stopping by. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Welcome back, Marilyn. Step by sure step is the way in life. As long as we are in the right direction, we should be fine - siva

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good morning, Siva; thanks for the welcome back. I'll be posting most of my addiction articles from my web site here after Google indexes them. I appreciate your comments as always. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Yes, good to see you back Marilyn..
This is like a good meal .
just a small amount each moment , well digested and then swallowed is the way to get the benefit from the whole plate .
God bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good morning, Stella; thank you for a great analogy. I can always depend on you to see my articles from another good perspective. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Glad to see you posting again. Keep taking good care!!

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good afternoon, Phyl. Recycling from the web page; the message needs to be out there according to others, so......Thanks for commenting and good to be back. ~Marilyn

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author avatar M G Singh
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Packed a `lot of informations. Good

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
11th Jul 2014 (#)

Good afternoon, Madan; thank you for commenting and glad to hear from you. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Jul 2014 (#)

Great article and beautifully written. Thanks for sharing!.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
12th Jul 2014 (#)

Good evening, Helen; thank you for the kind words. Sharing what has worked for me for almost 26 years may encourage someone else to give up drugs and alcohol and find a better life like I have. Blessings ~Marilyn

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author avatar snerfu
12th Jul 2014 (#)

Hello Ms MarilynDavisatTIERS, the piece above gives so much relief...I mean reading about thing you have to do, breaks stress build up. You really ought to recycle a lot more, if that is what you have done above. Makes nice reading.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
12th Jul 2014 (#)

Good evening, Snerfu; thank you for the comment. I will be "recycling" some of my newer addiction articles; however, many of the practice work for just about any problem. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Mariah
13th Jul 2014 (#)

Hello Marilyn and good to see you back, I love your methodical
and structured way of conveying
the facts...great write as always

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
13th Jul 2014 (#)

Good morning, Mariah; thank you for the welcome back, and I appreciate your comment. Good to see you, too. ~Marilyn

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