Stress fracture: The effects of stress and how to deal with them

Assured Angel By Assured Angel, 2nd Jul 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Businesses have invested a lot in helping their employees deal with stress as near epidemic of stress-related illnesses wreak havoc with their finances as well as their productivity. People are turning to medical and natural methods to help them deal with the pressures of every day life. So how can you manage something that is a part of everyday life?

Stress and the physical and emotional effects it can have and how to deal with them

"So do not worry or be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will have worries and anxieties of its own. Sufficient for each day is its own trouble." (Matthew 6 v34 AMP from www.biblegateway.com)

There are always two sides to every story. This is a statement that I hear time and time again. Perhaps its true, perhaps its not. In the area of stress, this is definitely the case. Stress, in small doses, can be a good thing. It goes by many names - motivation, drive, determination in other words, that thing that urges us to go on, push through the barrier and never give up.

Everyone needs this or life becomes a mediocre game of "Que sera sera" whether it is in your faith, in your family life or in your work. Enjoy and savour every success and breakthrough, especially when it has been gained by your blood, sweat and tears. It is what good stress does; it pushes us to do better and be better. Even laid- back people are passionate about something! But when stress goes into overdrive,that is when the problems start. There is always something to worry about - a project we need to do, our job (finding one, losing one, hating one), whether our children will be okay, whether we will find (or keep) the love of our lives, the list is endless. Just when we finish one thing, another one pops out rather like one of those annoying jack-in-the-boxes.

The recession has not helped, and biting cold and snow has also exacerbated the problem (well for me, briefly, anyway!). If you are one of those people who do not get stressed, I am pleased for you but this is for those who have serious problems with it. As someone who is prone to the dramatic, I have seen and experienced my own fair share of self-induced, stress-induced problems. This article will deal with some of them and will prove that the Good Book got it spot on when it tells us in Psalms 37 (three times no less!) "Do not fret—it only causes harm."

PROBLEM: Stress will cause you to lose sleep.There are no two ways about it. Thoughts of what you did that you shouldn't have and what you didn't do, will cause you to toss and turn in your bed at night, leading to poor sleep.

SOLUTION: For me, the answer was lists and Judge Judy! I would list what I needed to do the next day and then leave it on my bedside. Furthermore, before I slept I would try to wind down from the day by watching a movie, having a shower, reading a book. Whatever it is you need to do, do it. Do not just come in and try to go to bed (although, of course, there are some days when this may be necessary). Even if it is just ten minutes you have, use it to calm your mind. Switch off your phone and your computer and switch on the kettle have a nice cuppa, and say bye to the world...for a few mins of quality 'me-time.' Some swear by lavender oil, some say candy does the trick. The point is to make sure YOU are in a place where your mind is at ease. When it is, your body will follow.

PROBLEM: Stress can cause you to lose focus and perspective leading to feelings of irritability, frustration, anger and hopelessness.

SOLUTION: The lack of sleep is, in part, responsible for this. Do only what you can manage. The world is not going to fall down if you only get to number 6 on your list of 15. Prioritise what is most important and put it at the top and leave the not so important matters at the bottom. If you get to them, great. Leave yourself plenty of time to do things and allow yourself time for breaks.

PROBLEM: Stress can lead to illness from headaches to Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) to heart problems. During times of high stress, the body produces, amongst other things, adrenaline which causes the heart to race, blood to flow down to vital organs that will help you through this time. However, if you are constantly stressed, a burden on your heart and organs can be sometimes too much. Couple that with a bad diet, then you really have problems.

SOLUTION: Try to make time to eat properly. If it means getting up earlier, then do so. This means going to bed at a reasonable time. When you are having lunch, try to take your time rather than eating in a rush (leading to indigestion) or at your desk. Get up and get moving and have something healthy and substantial. The fresh air, walking around and the change of scenery will do wonders for your mood--and in time, your health. Supplements can help here too but they are not a substitute for a healthy, balanced diet. Now I am not one for telling you what (not) to eat because a little of what you like does you good (i.e. everything in MODERATION.) Go out for a run, take the dog for a walk, buy a skipping rope or a punch bag. Exercise is great for alleviating stress. If you have never exercised before, start gently or speak to your doctor.

PROBLEM: Stress can alienate loved ones. This is done one of two ways. You either become so busy that you do not have time to meet with them or in some cases, you keep things to yourself for fear you will upset/discourage/disappoint/anger them. Either of these situations can create a distance between you and those who matter.

SOLUTION: It is not just you who’s affected by stress. Your family, friends and loved ones are, too. They can feel rejected and hurt by your lack of attention and your secrecy. Although it may be hard at first, make a habit of leaving your work at the door (if you work from home, leave it in the office!) There is always tomorrow and believe it or not, your family needs you. Many problems are caused by workaholics who get their priorities messed up. There are many people who will look at this and say "I am busting a gut to make money to provide for my family. How can you say this?" Well, that may be the case, but would you want your children to remember you because you gave them nice things or gave them your time? Making it to their first recital, helping your mum when she needed it, looking after an ill partner, these are the things that people will remember longer. It is all about perspective and not being afraid to ask for help. You will find that they have been waiting for you to ask in the first place!

You cannot do anything about the circumstances that come your way, but you can control how you react to them. Choices have to be made and you have to make them. Being determined and motivated is a great thing, never lose that. But take care to have balance and be disciplined.

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Emotional Wellbeing, Emotions, Stress, Stress Management

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author avatar vpaulose
3rd Jul 2010 (#)

stress is a modern problem. nice article

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