The Judgment Trap

Tony Mendoza Jr. By Tony Mendoza Jr., 24th Feb 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/mvrme9ks/
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This article was written to show how the process of judgment influences all levels of your existence.

Reality And Spiritual Awareness

Today I would like to talk about something that affects us all on so many levels and that is the concept of “judgment” and how it undermines our effectiveness in life and ability to be happy!

It has been with us since the beginning of our consciousness and works at the most simple level as comparison. In fact, it really exists because of the way we perceive our three dimensional world and the concept of polarity or polar opposites.

Judgment in itself is neither good nor bad and is a necessary component of living in a three dimensional world. It is the process of how we determine what we want and perceive in our reality by comparing where we are now or what we want with where we would rather be or want so it is the ultimate tool in reaching our dreams.

But the subtler forms of judgment can be devastating to our life’s process and create a sense of separateness and uncertainty in our lives.

In our culture (what ever culture you come from) judgment is used to determine whether we fit into the norms of that society or not. If we are judged as “different” than what is considered “normal”, we are given the label of outcast in some form or another and look upon as bad, odd or dangerous to that particular culture.

In society we are judged as safe if we are all in agreement with the current reality and similar in nature and the differences we all have are judged with the opposite polarity and frowned upon.

I suggest that it is the differences in people that are actually creating the conscious growth of our realities because it gives us the opportunity to view ourselves from another perspective.

At the basic level we are “taught” by society that we should all be like each other and those rules are based upon what is the current cultural norm. For example, in my lifetime I have seen various differences through the years of how the “ideal woman” should look based on what society, using tools such as the media, have given us as the program. In that time we have gone from the full figured (Marilyn Monroe) to the ultra thin (Twiggy and the current ideal) models of today.

This actual process of evolution in this example is not good or bad but the need in society to compare who we are with the current value system can be dangerous to ourselves in so many ways!

The moment we are judged as “not enough” or “too much” it creates “dis-ease” within us because the actual process of comparison destroys the truth of the possibility that we are in deed perfect in our own individuality in that moment.

Another danger it creates is that we can shut down or stop following our “inner guidance system” that leads us to our ultimate fulfillment in life and we can get caught in the trap of living our lives based on those comparisons.

I think that it is this reason that so many people feel lost, angry and unhappy which leads to crime and the ultimate crime, war. How can we possibly live a happy and fulfilled life if we are trying to be something other than our own unique self because we are told that just being who we are is unacceptable for what ever reason?

I will leave you with the possibility of asking yourself this question?

How has judgment influenced your happiness in life and your ability to feel completely at peace with who you are in this moment?

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Conscious Awareness, Consciousness, Disease, Group Reality, Judgment, Law Of Attraction, Positive Beliefs, Quantum Theory, Reality, Self Development Tools, Self Esteem, Self Help, Self Improvement, Spirituality, Wellness

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Fitness Trainer, Martial Artist, Web Designer, Spiritual Seeker. My writings will be related to one of the above!

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author avatar Twin Palms
26th Feb 2011 (#)

I do not judge people for their beliefs as we all have different conceptions of a situation or issue. I was brought up not to judge people from the outside, but from within and have done that my entire life. I have passed that down to my daughters and I see my benefits through my grandchildren and how they are being taught - no bias. Great article!

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author avatar Tony Mendoza Jr.
26th Feb 2011 (#)

That is great news Kitty! The main reason is that self-judgment is the most detrimental of all and by allowing your daughters the opportunity to be open to all ideas without bias it allows them to be free of self-judgment as well. Thank you for your comment!

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author avatar leesab
28th Feb 2011 (#)

Thank you for this informaiton tony. It ties into my publication as well! I am so comfortable in my skin today that I have to sometimes pinch myself to see if I'm dreaming! Very interesting!

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author avatar Tony Mendoza Jr.
28th Feb 2011 (#)

You are welcome leesab, being comfortable in your own skin is a good indicator of how well your intuitive guidance system is working for you. Thank you for the comment!

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
6th Mar 2011 (#)

Great article Tony. It really gives one thought to ponder.
Steve Kinsman

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author avatar Tony Mendoza Jr.
6th Mar 2011 (#)

Thank you Steve for your comment, I appreciate it!

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author avatar Carol Kinsman
6th Mar 2011 (#)

Great article Tony! John and I had a long conversation this morning about how destructive it is to be judgmental to others. Then I came online and read this. Perfect!!

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author avatar Tony Mendoza Jr.
6th Mar 2011 (#)

Thanks Carol! It sounds like you and John are in intuitive alignment with the universe today and that is what led you to my article.

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author avatar Artur Victoria
9th Mar 2011 (#)

Well done !

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author avatar Tony Mendoza Jr.
9th Mar 2011 (#)

Thank you Artur, I appreciate the comment!

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author avatar Denise O
15th Apr 2011 (#)

Tony, this really hit home for me. I have tried to stop judging myself for every darn mistake I have made throughout my life and the ones that will happen. I have succeeded in this up until now. Others in my life will not allow it. I have found this has really eaten into my soul these last few months. The sad thing is, the things they are speaking of, are not even true, other than in their minds and also, they supposedly happened over 2 decades ago. I know I am right but, that has not taken the pain away from me, that seems to be just chipping away at my soul. It is bad enough I am so hard on myself but, then to add others to the mix, it is just too much. When will we as a society just give folks a break. Nice read. Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Tony Mendoza Jr.
15th Apr 2011 (#)

Thank you for your comment Denise! One of the negative aspects of judgement is it causes us to fall into the loop of wanting and giving approval based on what we are seeing (judging) and most of the time we are harder on ourselves than we are on other people. One we realize that we do not need approval, as it is really an "empty vessel" we can begin to forgive others for their need to judge and most importantly we can forgive ourselves for needing even our own approval and realize that our journey (or map) is really separate from our true being!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Feb 2015 (#)

I lead a life according to my inner awareness while conforming to society's acceptance. We all come with an inner knowing and the ills of the society are mainly due to ignoring our individual talents and urges. We should respect the oneness of Creation but never forget the uniqueness in each of us. Thought provoking post - siva

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